How these two meet
Everyone who has ever stayed in your house says the same thing on the way out, and it is that they slept well.
That is not a small compliment, and it is also where the problem begins.
Cancer starts it: the perimeter, the meals, who is coming, what the year is going to look like. Taurus takes what Cancer started and makes it permanent, and permanent is not a figure of speech with a fixed sign. It means the thing is now load bearing.
What neither of you has is the mutable modality. Nothing gets quietly adjusted here. A thing is either the way the house does it, or it is a change, and a change in this house is an event that needs a conversation neither of you wants to have.
And here is what has actually been built, which takes years to see because from inside it looks like inertia: nothing in this house has to be renegotiated in order to be relied on. That is not a small thing to have made, and it is not what either of you thought you were making. Everybody who sleeps well here is sleeping in it.
For Taurus, the work is making one thing provisional on purpose and saying out loud that it is provisional.
For Cancer, the work is proposing a change without first working out how everybody is going to feel about it.
The question
When did this stop being negotiable?
One conscious action
one thing, on trial
Change one small permanent thing for a fortnight and call it a trial out loud.
At the end of it either of you may say that it was worse. That is allowed, and it is the point.
Venus does not reopen what it has valued and the Moon does not stop moving, and between a fixed sign and a cardinal one there is nothing in this house that bends.
Neither of you has ever said the sentence about wanting something different. It is not that it was said and refused. It has not been said.