How these two meet
The accusation each of you would make, if either of you made accusations, is that the other one is doing it wrong.
Gemini thinks Virgo takes a live thing and pins it. Virgo thinks Gemini takes a thing that could be settled and keeps it in the air on purpose, because settled is boring and Gemini would rather be interested than right.
You are both correct and neither of you has said so, because it would come out sounding like shallow or small, and those are the exact two words you were each called growing up.
Here is the part nobody mentions about this pairing: Mercury rules both of these signs. Not a similar body. The same one. In the old scheme it is the first step out from the two lights, once on each side, which lands it on Virgo on the Sun’s side and Gemini on the Moon’s. It is also the body that changes its mind most, 315 retrograde turns a century, about three a year, nearly a fifth of its life spent going back over ground it has already crossed.
Which makes the thing each of you has been diagnosing in the other one the same instrument at a different setting. And it is why, when either of you finally says the real version of something, the other one has it at full speed, first time, with no explaining. Neither of you gets that anywhere else and both of you have stopped noticing that you get it here.
For Gemini, the work is letting one thing be settled and staying interested in it anyway.
For Virgo, the work is saying a half-formed thing out loud without the disclaimer that it is half formed.
The question
What is the difference between thinking and worrying, and who taught you which was which?
One conscious action
one thing, at full speed
Take the thing you have each been explaining to other people all year and say it to each other with none of the explaining in it.
Time how long that takes. The number is the argument for this house.
One body rules this entire house and it is the fastest and least settled thing on the wheel, which is either the problem here or the reason you can talk at all.
When either of you finally says a thing at full speed, it lands first time and neither of you has ever remarked on it. That is not a compliment about the two of you. It is what happens when one body is running both ends of a conversation.